Avoiding the burnout of life – Jennifer Maggio Christian Blog
Avoid the burnout of life
I love this God-given opportunity that he has placed in my life. I love being a mother to three very different children, two of whom are now adults. I love to be a wife, friend and colleague. I love working with churches, pastors, and anyone who is committed to serving single mothers and their families. However, there have been too many times to count over the years that I have trained to the point of complete exhaustion and burnout. In this place of exhaustion, I found myself angry, rude, bitter, angry, and unwilling to share why.
Whether we are responding to a woman, a mom, a student, an employee, a pastor, or a hundred other roles, the common theme among us is to ask ourselves if we are making a difference in our world and how we can keep moving forward. ? I am convinced that this is the truest of women. Too many of us are burnt out, exhausted and fatigued, yet we fear that we will be seen as weak, inferior or imperfect if we do something about it or tell others.
I know exactly how you feel. I found myself being that girl. I have been there so many times. Although God extends his hand of grace blessing my ministry work, marriage and children so abundantly, there is still this little voice within me asking: “Am I making a difference? Should I do this? How can I take a break to recharge my batteries or go on a family vacation when the needs of those around me are so great? “ It was only when I was on the verge of drowning from exhaustion; I searched for God through my despair. He revealed a few revelations that I would like to share with you:
- Know your role. When we understand that our role in life is not to be everything for everyone, we fully understand that we do not have to fix the world, our children or our colleagues. We are not fixing the others. We’re leading people to the God who can. Our role in life is to continue to lead people to the Lord, Jesus, as their source of strength, courage, patience, and prayer answers – we were never designed to be these things.
- Rest. In the first years of the ministry, it was the most difficult for me. Anyone who knows me personally knows that I am driven, hardworking and passionate. The ministry of single mothers keeps me awake at night. The desire to see my children succeed burns me. Making sure my job performance is efficient is also important to me; there is so much work to be done in all of these areas. More than that, we need to rest. We need to take the time to sleep, to sit on the couch doing nothing and doing nothing. It is essential to our effectiveness in relationships.
- Set limits. Whatever boundaries you put in place, it’s important that you stick to them. For example, between 5:00 p.m. and 7:00 p.m., you have a sit-down meal with your family at the table; do not accept phone calls during this time. If you’ve decided that one Saturday a month is set aside for a date with your spouse, protect it. When we set limits in our lives, it signals to those we work with, our girlfriends, and our ministries that we value our rest enough to protect it. It’s important that you find boundaries that work for you and your family, and understand that you need to stick to them for your own health.
- Stay in good spiritual health. You cannot give when you do not receive. Stay in the Word of God. Stay in prayer. Continue with regular church attendance. Pray without ceasing. All of the things that have contributed to your Christian journey with the Lord are the things that will sustain and hold you on this journey as you become an encouragement to others.
- Responsibility is healthy. Your life should be structured so that you are responsible to others in your life, such as your pastor, spouse, ministry leader, or mentor. Experience and wisdom have taught them to recognize and see things that we are sometimes unable to see when we are knee deep in the middle of life. They offer perspective and education. They are in our lives to help keep us safe.
- Sabbaticals are important. Know when it’s time for an extended rest. It may not always be possible to do this immediately, but for some it may be intentionally taking five to seven days off from social media, work, and ministerial responsibilities. For me, I’ve always taken extended holidays during the summer when my kids come home from school. Whatever extended rest is right for you, do it as needed. This allows you to have a refreshing time with extended family and to have the opportunity to gain a new perspective.
Jennifer Maggio is a national voice for single mothers and women in pain. His personal story has been featured in hundreds of media including The New York Times, Daystar Television, The 700 Club, and many more. She is CEO / Founder of The Life of a Single Mom Ministries, a national nonprofit organization that works with churches to develop programs for single mothers and currently serves over 1,500 churches.
The life of a single mother has served 406,000 single mothers over the past decade. Maggio is the author of several books, including The Church and the Single Mom. For more information visit www.jennifermaggio.com.
Jennifer maggio is a national voice for single mothers and harming women. His personal story has been featured in hundreds of media including The New York Times, Daystar Television, The 700 Club, and many more. She is CEO / Founder of The Life of a Single Mom Ministries, a national nonprofit organization that works with churches to develop programs for single mothers and serves more than 1,500 churches and 71,000 single mothers each year. She is the author of several books, including The Church and the Single Mother. She also hosts the podcast Single mom 101, which you can find on LifeAudio.com. For more information visit www.thelifeofasinglemom.com or consult it Facebook and Instagram pages.